The Aligned Communication 2.0

Why do we have stumbles in our communication?

You should go to him already....

• Why don't I get paid more? Eve came later and still earns much more!
• True, Eve has more ideas...
• Still, I should go there already!
• Christina went there the other day and it was so humiliating to be told no....
• He promised me a raise a year ago, am I not doing something right?
• Yes, that could be the reason....

A trivial but all the more powerful story that plays out in the minds of thousands of people! I have something important to say, but how do I start? I wonder what the other person will say?

There are many misunderstandings during communication!

Or when for every sentence you have some bad memory of the other person, you are convinced you only mean them harm! "I had a bad day, I just want to relax..." "You never listen to me! It's always stupid TV and friends!" "you're sitting there with your phone in your hand!" "but you never have time to do anything with me!"

Or when the two sides talk past each other as if they don't speak the same language! Most of the conversations, instead of being about something new, just get lost in the fog...

DIFFICULT WITHOUT INNER HARMONY!

Speaking or writing is already the second step in communication. What you want to express in some way starts with your thoughts. You have an inner dialogue, which is perfectly normal. You sometimes speak your thoughts to yourself. It's like in cartoons: you have an angel on one shoulder and a little devil on the other. And they murmur things in your ear.

Communication starts here! It comes from what you think and feels about yourself, your environment and the people in it.

Without inner harmony, your communication leads to much more misunderstanding and conflict.

We often want to change what is the next step, instead of being aware of our inner values!

So why is it the trend now?

Besides being a consumer society.... Everything has sped up. Whether you like it or not, they are affecting you! It's hard to ignore this trend, but you can't! And what's more, it takes a lot less effort than you might first think.

External communication, such as speech, clothing, and hairstyle, can only create an image of yourself for a while - even hours. If it is not in harmony with your inner communication, you will feel bad about yourself.

Yet, you see it everywhere you go - buy a new dress, go to the hairdresser, surround yourself with cool people, or a tiny handbag from a luxury brand will make you the most successful!

So why is it the trend now?

Besides being a consumer society.... Everything has sped up. Whether you like it or not, they are affecting you! It's hard to ignore this trend, but you can't! And what's more, it takes a lot less effort than you might first think.

External changes make an incredibly rapid difference!

Just think, you're getting your first haircut in weeks. They do your hair and you feel like a new person in just 30-40 minutes! People notice you, wink at you, and you even get compliments at home. In just two days, everything changed. It's like nothing ever happened. You understand now, right?

External changes can bring very quick results, but if you want lasting results, you have to start from the inside!

Our inner dialogues determine how we succeed in connecting with others.

When an external influence makes a change in you, it is not to be underestimated! It can even be appreciated because it shows that you have the ingredients you need. However, it makes a big difference if you want to make a lasting change.

The image you create of yourself determines everything you do!

On your two shoulders, the voices of your inner image are speaking to you! Not an angel and an evil imp, but your inner voice. And your inner voice will suggest to you what is safest. The question is, what does this safety mean, based on your inner values and memories?! Because what is safe for you on the conscious side may not be the same as what you accept on the unconscious side.

Creating inner harmony by changing your thinking.

Your thoughts are heavily influenced by your past memories.

A mother and her child find a garter snake in the garden. The mother runs screaming at the top of her lungs to take her child and escape from the garden! She immediately sees that the snake is the greatest danger to them both! Not even considering his options, he screams and flees the scene with his child.

How different the story and outcome is if the mother happens to love nature and its inhabitants. She recognises the snake and reacts to the situation with complete calm.

What you have heard, experienced and stored up with emotion will define the way you see the world around you. And that is how you talk to others!

By changing the way you think about yourself, you will change the way you feel about yourself, your determination, and your confidence and you will be more successful in getting your message across!

After your haircut, you will feel more confident, prettier, attractive, acceptable, self-assured, poised, etc. because you already have these characteristics. The external stimulus has only awakened this and briefly set it in motion.

If you reverse this effect mechanism and reinforce your inner values, you will feel extraordinary doesn't matter if there is a star hairdresser or isn't!

Have you ever had a conversation with someone you've only known for about 5 minutes yet still felt good about yourself? Like you've known each other for 100 years... right? More than likely the reason for this is that his or her inner spark is strong and balanced. The person you experienced it with was there, at that moment, in harmony with themselves. He or she gave you what he or she felt was true within himself or herself (whether or not this is lasting is another question...)

When you feel balanced, so composed, so rounded, then the compliments will surely come: "you are so nice to talk to!" "you always see everything better!" "you make me feel at ease!"

The Aligned Communication 2.0 online  -Live Workshop is simple but profound:

Because we reveal the difficulties and limitations of communication in a way that everyone can understand.

Once we understand limitations, we gain insight into many areas of life. With insight, we have the next step towards a new design. From there, all that remains is an active experience.

As we move away from barriers, fears, and conditions to communication, the quality of connection to others changes. Most importantly, we will have a better relationship with ourselves.